I recently read a pretty controversial post called “Why Good Girls Have Become Unicorns” and while I found myself agreeing with some parts of it, there were some things I was conflicted with.
Perhaps it’s true, maybe good girls have become unicorns but good women are still around. Good women do still exist and are much more real and prevalent than unicorns will ever be. Of course, behind some good women there lives a bad girl past, but that’s what growing up is all about, right?
Yes, the girls in today’s society have totally taken on a “I don’t give a fuck” attitude. Why wouldn’t we? We’ve grown up being told how important independence is, we’ve been bombarded with these images of strong women and told that we too can be like them. We have been exposed to sexualized music videos and movies since before we even knew what sex was and now that girls are into one-night-stands it suddenly means we don’t respect ourselves?
I am in no way a feminist. Feminism actually confuses the shit out of me because it seems as though it’s always contradicting itself. I couldn’t care less what the hell other women do and I think the girl with her tits out in Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” video is, just that, a girl with her tits out. Does it mean she doesn’t respect herself? I doubt it. Does it mean she’s not a unicorn? Maybe she is, maybe she isn’t… I don’t know her personally so that is something I’ll never know.
There’s a big difference between women and girls. I think our society needs to start broadening the term “girl” though. Because being a girl doesn’t stop when you turn 18. You don’t magically become a woman overnight. You have to live your life, make mistakes, and fuck some assholes before you gain the experience and wisdom that comes with being a woman. I’m sure there are plenty of 35-year-old girls out there and maybe some 21-year-old women. Age really isn’t the deciding factor.
But when you’re a girl, growing and learning, what’s wrong with being wild? What’s wrong with one-night-stands or taking pictures of you and your friends at the beach. Sure, everyone has gotten a bit obnoxious with the Instagram selfies and shit and yeah, maybe some girls do sleep around a bit too much, but if they grow out of it when they decide to settle down, why does any of it matter?
I do think that girls in today’s society are a lot more brazen than ever before. I do think that some of them really don’t have any self-respect. I do think that both women and girls love sex and aren’t afraid to get dirty but what I also think is that girls are a lot smarter than guys give them credit for. Girls have found a tool and they aren’t afraid to use it. What used to belong to men is also now magic for girls and they’re taking advantage of it. Growing up, girls are being taught that they too can have it all: So why can’t they have self-respect AND one-night stands?
So yeah, maybe finding a good girl is like finding a unicorn but if you’re out prowling for girls then maybe you’re the one who needs to find yourself some standards. If you want to settle down so bad stop fucking girls and start gaining an appetite for women. Good women are the ones who lead daily lives, the ones who have partied and had their fun but who are now “all grown up”. The ones who are ready to settle down even if they have a one-night-stand sometimes. Being good doesn’t go hand-in-hand with being boring either. Women are all around us, even the ones with hot bodies who like to have sex. So, quite frankly, I think it’s real men who are the true unicorns. Boys though, well they’re clearly out in full force.
Not a unicorn but a good woman,
The Love Hawk